Transitions in Parenting.

By: Janine Cole, Registered Psychotherapist

As a therapist and a mother, I know first-hand how deeply the parenting role carves itself into your identity. From watching your child take their first steps to cheering them on through bigger steps—like a solo trip abroad or choosing their post-secondary path—these moments can stir up a powerful mix of pride, anxiety, and unexpected grief, whether it’s the first child or the last one taking these big leaps towards independence.

While exciting and necessary (yay, we did it – they’re ready!), these milestones can come with a quiet ache. You may start to feel that your role is beginning to shift, or that the family dynamic is starting to change, and a looming sense that the house might feel… different. You’re still their parent, but not in the same hands-on way. That transition can feel unsettling.

You're not alone. It's okay to make space for these feelings — they matter, especially as you rediscover who you are beyond parenting.  In time maybe you can be curious again—about your interests, your time, and your own growth. If you're feeling a little lost, start small. What lights you up? Your role as a parent is evolving—not disappearing. And neither are you.

Janine Cole is a Registered Psychotherapist at OMA and a mom to four wonderful kids, including a stepdaughter. Her authentic presence and warm approach is her best therapeutic tool.  If you’d like to talk more about how therapy can support you during challenging transitions, feel free to reach out to book a complimentary consultation.